Did you know that the first step to becoming a leader is self-leadership? It’s not about titles or positions of power. It is about being grounded and having a solid foundation as an individual whom can then radiate and build others up where and when it is needed. Whether it’s for your own personal growth or to build your team, these are few key things to keep in mind when establishing structure or change:
#1 Your Attitude: The fact of the matter is that we can’t be grateful and angry at the same time. What does that mean? This means that there can’t be two polar emotions co-existing, that will lead you to a positive outcome. You can’t expect to make the best logical decisions when your emotions are out of balance. When trying to create change, it is best to do so and make choices when you are in your best emotional state.
For example, have you noticed that when you are upset at someone or something, you begin speaking differently than you normally would or begin to make rash decisions that you usually wouldn’t make if you weren’t “angry”? This is the same across the board with all aspects of your life as a human being. Granted, there are many factors that come into play when trying to narrow down and set your foundation as to what kind of person you want to be or show to the world. The key is to filter out all of the things that are not bringing value to you as a person or to your life in general:
• Unhealthy habits.
Not having a set routine to get the most out of your day. You need discipline!
The people you are spending your time with. Take time to evaluate your social circle. Are these individuals bringing positivity into your life? Are they helping you grow, or have you outgrown them?
Not taking care of yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually, etc. Self- care goes beyond facemasks and bubble baths!
Once you filter out the unnecessary things in your life, you now only have time to focus on what really matters. You will notice your attention and energy shift. You will begin to think clearly and really invest in things you didn’t even know were necessary in your life before. What I mentioned above will fixate your attitude because you will create the best environment for yourself where you will thrive.
Having a positive attitude = positive outcomes.
#2 Your Energy: Did you know that your energy is contagious? Yes, it is! When you walk into a room, you have the power to shift the present energy to whatever you want it to be. If you don’t do it, someone else will do it without knowing either. Ever hear, “Wow, the room feels tense”? Well, that’s what we are referring to. Energy is something that we can’t see, but we can feel it. With that being said, what is your energy radiating to others around you or those watching you? Remember, no one will listen to people who they don’t like, let alone negative people who bring them down. You need to practice being aware of what you are thinking about, how you are speaking, and how you are acting towards others.
*Try this: Any time before leaving your house for the day or before walking into a team meeting, do an energy check. What are you carrying with you mentally? Create mental space so that you can really be present in the moment.
#3 Your Vision: This is such a crucial and essential part in the process of becoming a leader. The reason is simple: Your perspective is why you are getting the results you are getting. This can be a great thing, or it can be bad if your vision is a little distorted...no worries though, correction is always an option! In order to enhance your vision or completely change it, is by learning how to see things differently. It sounds a little funny, but you are blinding yourself. It is an internal process that begins with the things that were listed above. For example, your attitude. Something that you may see as a burden or inconvenience may actually be a lesson in disguise, you just weren’t looking at it in the correct light or completely ignoring it. You may think it’s the worst thing that could ever happen to you, but in reality, it brought some things to the surface that needed to be dealt with, and they actually make you a better person.
With clear vision, you will be able to make great decisions. Remember, at the end of the day your attitude will determine and define the circumstances around you. So, always go for what is best!